What We Want to Hear

I stumbled on this blog and found a link to a nice read about, well, I would say tips to show your wife that she is truly loved.   Here's a repost:

10 Things Wives Want to Hear from their Husbands

 1. “Thanks for all you do for our family.”

Yes, you work hard.  You might even feel that your load is a million times heavier than your wife’s.  But your wife works hard, too…and a little thanks goes a long way.

2. “You are a great mom and wife.”

If you really want to make her day, go beyond saying “thank you” and praise her for doing a good job.

3. “Let me do that for you.”

Your wife realizes you are exhausted when you get home from work.  She probably is too.  So offer to help out.  Start with something small like cleaning up after dinner.  Or, if you really want to score points, do the laundry or something else you normally don’t do.

4. “I love you so much.”

Did you notice the extra words, after the “I love you?”  Telling your wife you love her is a great start, but telling her why you love her, how much you love her, or that you’ll love her forever, will melt her heart.

5. “You are beautiful.”

No matter her age, her size or how long you’ve been married, a woman loves to hear that you think she’s attractive.  And, don’t just say, “You look nice.”  Instead, use adjectives like, great, lovely, fantastic.

6. “Let me watch the kids.”

If you already watch your children regularly, good job!  If you don’t, think of it this way.  When you offer to take care of the children, your wife gets to recharge her batteries.  A wife with a recharged battery is usually more patient, kind and loving.

7. “Let’s go out tonight.”

Take charge of your next date night.  This shows your wife that you enjoy spending time with her.

8. “I’m sorry you had a hard/frustrating/disappointing day.”

These words let your wife know that you are aware of what’s going on in her life.

9. “I would marry you all over again.”

In one sentence you’re telling your wife you value your life together and that you’re committed to her.

10. “How can I be a better husband to you?”

Hearing these words will either make your wife burst into tears, smile like a kid in a candy store, or, if she’s completely shocked, laugh uncontrollably.  Before you ask this question, though, be ready to hear what she has to say without being defensive.

I cannot agree more.  I'm all for communicating and hearing sweet nothings from my hubby (who, unfortunately, is exactly the opposite - fine, he says his improving bit by bit but still).  At the end of a long day, don't we wives just want to feel appreciated?  I don't ask for anything in return for all that I do for my family but gestures like this is definitely a bonus. :)

Bits of Life

Last week, my boss invited her friend (and ex-boss) who now works for United Nations to give a us a short talk on change management, leadership, being in the career of "service", and, well, life in general.  I learned quite a few things that I thought I'd share, not his exact same words but at least how it struck me.

• Find your passion.   
• Never stop learning. 
• Be happy - on your own.
• It's ok to be selfishly in love with yourself once in a while.
• Travel.  It's more than just the "experience".
• There will always be a change you would have to deal with.

During the early part of the workshop, we were each asked what we'd rather do if money was not an object.  Naturally, I said a housewife.  However, now that I got the chance to think about it more, I'd say a work-at-home mom and lifestyle blogger. :)

*wishing I could update this site like a real pro blogger*

Little Dude is Two!

Time flies!  Marcus just turned two last week.  Since Jax and I agreed we won't be throwing him any big birthday parties until he's seven, we just had a simple celebration meant really for little dude to enjoy the day his way.

We've been planning to go on a beach trip but decided against it at the last minute because Marcus had colds.  So, we went on a "field trip" instead.  Hehe

Let's go do a photoblog...

I ordered a small cake from Bonggak Pastries, just for the purpose of candle blowing.  I had it designed with a toy car but they went an extra mile and did a Lightning McQueen.  Hindi na ko choosy, cute din naman sya. :) Marcus liked it though he didn't want to get close enough to the flame to blow it so we had to help him.

I also bought smiley balloons to add to the "fun-feel".  This got him excited when he woke up.  Look at him running around our streets with these yellow "buboos"!

Check out the shirt he's wearing!  It says "Marcus, the birthday boy!"  Had this made for him at a small shop in Festival Mall, the same place we had his shirt printed for his first birthday party.

Picture with mom and dad.  Little dude couldn't take his eyes off his cake.

Field trip destination # 1: Manila Zoo.  Enjoying looking at the bird sanctuary.  This is his first time in a zoo so he was really staring at all the animals there.  Notice how similar my boys' postures are!

Field trip destination # 2:  Mall of Asia.  We had lunch at Fish and Co first.  This is what he did when asked, "Who's having a birthday today?" (He meant "meeeeeeee!!!")

Unfortunately, I wasn't able to take photos of when we went to Cosmic Kidz.  It was a huge playground for the kids and kids at heart!  They had a separate area for smaller kids like Marcus, which was good because it ensured the safety of the younger ones.  He went with his dad (na suko sa pagbantay! haha!) and loved the slides, tubes, mini carousel, toy boats, and all the attractions.

We were still supposed to go to Museo Pambata for our field trip destination # 3 but we were already tired by then.  We just went to my parents' house for merienda since it was also my niece's first month birthday (syempre may handa din si momsy!) and then went home.  The day still didn't end there though, because when we got home, hubby's family also came over to bring another cake for the birthday boy.  That day, we somehow got to share it with our families

Like I said, we went low key with our little one's birthday this year but I still wouldn't do it any other way.  It was nice to spend it the best way we know he would have fun! :)

Happy 2nd Birthday, my Little Dude!  

 You will forever be our baby.  Mom and dad loves you very much.

The Revival

For weeks I've been contemplating on whether to create a new blog or to keep this as is (well except that it would be updated more religiously).  I so wanted to go back to blogging and it's one of the things I promised I would do for 2012.

Finally, I decided to keep Superwifey because: 1. I couldn't think of a new domain name, and 2. I don't have the heart to throw away the few posts I had here, especially those about the time hubby and I were just starting out.  I figured I'll just update the look a bit. Thank God for blogger's background images, I found this cute it's-so-me template.  I cannot wait to have my laptop installed with Photoshop again so I could do more customized tweaks! :)

Anyhoo... I want to keep my profile write-up because it's a cute reminder of why I put up this blog in the first place.  However, it's not anymore a reflection of who I am now so I guess I really have to update.  Will just post the old write-up here before I delete and revise.  

I'm a newbie wife to my husband, AJ. We're both still trying to get the hang of this thing called married life but cherishing every moment of it.  It's amazing how there's always a new discovery about each other!  I'm keeping this blog mainly to document how we're starting out as a married couple.  I don't ever want to forget this HAPPY feeling so I thought it would be great to have this space to go back to someday. Oh and yeah, this is also where you'll probably see how the bratty drama queen is turning into a (trying hard) superwifey. ;)

I wonder how different I'd describe myself now...

Ooooh that thing you do!

The naughty boy at 1 year & 9 months,

just a day after he got out of his 1st hospital stay.

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I love how my little dude...

• refuses to lay on his bed unless I do so myself
• only wants nobody else but me when he cries
• says "do" when he means dog, "ka" when he means cup, "nga" when he means one more (weird, I know!), "cos" when he means close, "toter" when he means water, and all those other small "words" he can utter
• greets me when I get home with his eyes all lit up
• grabs my hand when he wants to ride his bike or go outside to play
• laughs uncontrollably when playing with his dad
• messes up his hair as if shampoo-ing when he sees a shampoo commercial on TV
• goes around in circles, jumping, until he gets dizzy and falls
• calls me "ma" only whenever I'm not paying attention to him
• wants my arms wrapped around him when he wakes up at the middle of the night to get him back to sleep

... and the list goes on.

Thank you, Lord, for the greatest blessing ever. :)

I Like the Number Eight

On this date, eight years ago, I was happy and excited being in a new relationship. You know how you always have that silly smile on your face because you're just so kilig? Something like that. I wasn't really expecting it to be for the long haul then, but I was hopeful that "he" turns out to be, well, someone worth it.

Fast forward to three years ago... it was confirmed. He was worth it. And so on the same date, at the exact same place where we "met", we made it official to spend the rest of our lives together.

October 16, 2008 - THE Day

Today marks our 8th anniversary - 5 years as boyfriend-girlfriend and 3 years as husband & wife. I don't think I can ever stress enough that our story isn't all good and fairy tale-y. We go through challenges (a lot of them, actually) but the bright side is, we choose to continue to understand and love all of each other.

This is the first time since we got married that we are celebrating our wedding anniversary. (On our first year, I was preggers so we couldn't do much. Last year, we were too busy taking care of our little dude that we didn't even have time to plan.) It's still nothing really grand ala second honeymoon though. Believe me, when you're both stressed from work and taking care of a super active toddler, this is already a luxury. Anyway, here's what we did for our anniversary weekend:

• Checked-in at Marriott Manila for a night (for free! We just used hubby's rewards points! Hehe)
• Had dinner at the Passion Restaurant at Maxims
• Watched 2 movies (one after the other) - Real Steel (very nice!) and No Other Woman (finally!)
• Did some planning stuff for our future, complete with worksheets (yes, very HR. haha!)
• Went to Mercato Centrale for some food shopping

We just spent time being together, connecting with each other - just us, physically, mentally, and emotionally. It felt great! :)

To end this post, I'd like to recall what I said on my wedding vows:

My Jax, I have so much joy in my heart as I stand here beside you today. Everyday, I thank the Lord for giving you to me - the one who will always have the ability to make me smile, the one who inspires me to be the best that I can be... the only one man I am spending the rest of my life with.

I have found what I always hoped for. I know that no matter what happens at the end of a long day, somebody's going to hold my hand and tell me that everything is going to be okay, or thank God for all the blessings He showers us with.

I promise I will be your best friend, number one fan, and partner.

I will not only be there for you when you are hurting. I will try to shield you from pain.

I will not only take care of you, our home, and our future family. I will give my 100% to be the best wife and mother.

I will love you not only for the things you do for me, nor for the way you make me feel. I will love the whole of your being - body, heart and soul, today and for all eternity.

Aaaaaww.. can I be any cheesier? Hahaha!

Happy Anniversary, my Jax! I love you to to the moon and back. :)

My ex-boyfriend and I - eight years strong!

Re-organizing

Why am I back? Hmm... It must be because of the crazy weather, or that the little one fell asleep earlier than usual tonight (hence the free time to blog), or well, maybe I just feel like there's so much to pour out.

I am not sure if turning 30 two months ago has something to do with feeling old - like so-many-things-have-changed old. I suddenly realized that I am so much different now than how I used to be (more on that on a separate post) that recently, I find myself spending precious hours just figuring out who I really am, what makes me happy, and what I really want out of life.

Anyways, I also got to thinking that maybe what's making me feel "this" is because I just turned lazy to do ANYTHING. With that, I decided that I'll make a list of the things I've always wanted to do (and of course, actually do it!) to jumpstart the old me. Here's what I have so far:

• Finish the 2 books lying on my desk - the parenting book which I got as a birthday gift (halfway done already) and another one on Execution which was from our General Manager, supposedly to help with the project I'm working on
  
• Start with a baby scrapbook - already bought srapbook pages and cutouts (on sale! haha!) for all the stuff I saved from Marcus' firsts but I've never really sat down and actually make something out of it
  
• Go back to cooking - I know I'm not exactly good at this but the domesticated part of me suddenly missed "experimenting". Maybe I should go and download one of those recipe apps for my phone?
  
• Reformat my laptop - I've started organizing all the photos (which I think are the only important files here) but I just haven't transferred them to an external drive. Tsk tsk.
  
• Clean-up my closet and get rid of all the clothes I don't want to wear or those that don't fit anymore. Huhu.
  
• Create my "dream life" plan - I was told that if you have a dream, write or draw them down and put it somewhere you'll always see it. That way, you'll be more driven to get to them.
  
• Schedule for all mommy duties - by this I mean the OC type where all info are in one structured list like for paying bills, grocery list by shelf category, etc.
  
• Exercise - been lazy to join Zumba class lately! :(
  

I'm hoping to be able to do another post on all the mixed feelings I've been having these days. Maybe when I get to cross a few of these items off the list?