Showing posts with label working mom. Show all posts
Showing posts with label working mom. Show all posts

Sunday, June 23, 2013

A Working Mom's Resolution

Since the meltdown incident happened, I've been more determined to take the necessary steps to achieve my goal of becoming a work-at-home mom.  I'm just taking baby steps actually, but still.  And so, for me to be constantly reminded of my vision and how to get to it, I'm making a list here:

  1. I will not bring home work anymore.  This is so I can (1) devote my time to my boys and (2) have more time for researching on possible business ventures or work-at-home options.
  2. I will learn to trade stocks online.  I've been a member of Bo Sanchez's Truly Rich Club since April but I never really got to opening a trade account until last week. Let's see how far this could go.
  3. I will be more involved with Little Dude's school activities.  This means that I will find time everyday to know what he did in school and research on what activities are best to supplement what is being taught in school. It's also good that his new school establishes good relationships with their students' parents (can't wait to attend my first ever PTA meeting! Haha!) every step of the way because I really want to be as active as I can.
  4. I will exercise.  With all the things I need to learn, I need to have energy to keep me alive and excited. I've always been a believer that being physically active is a good way to jumpstart accomplishing your tasks.  So... help me, Lord! Hahaha!
  5. I will declutter and focus on the quality of life I'd like to achieve. I will surround myself with things (or people!) that will constantly remind me to be back on track.  I will devote more time to reflect, pray, and enrich my spiritual life.
There.  Maybe I should print this and keep it somewhere visible.  Lord, I claim success over my life goals, if You will, with your guidance.

Saturday, June 8, 2013

First Mommy Meltdown



Last Monday, little dude's teacher at his new school sent me an SMS saying that they'll be doing a home visit to get to know him before school starts. I love that about Marcus' new school . Since their forte is on preschoolers, they really make an effort to ensure these kids are managed well. I think it's a pretty good strategy to prep them for the first day of school.

I said yes to Teacher Frances with a request that the visit be made in the afternoon or early evening when I'm back from work. I even texted her this morning to remind her to schedule the visit at around 3pm so I can just take the afternoon off work.

Around 9:30am while I was in a meeting, teacher texted that they'll have to drop by in the morning at around 11-12nn! I hurriedly finished the meeting and replied that I am going home and to wait for me. I dashed off the cafe where the meeting was, half-walked half-ran to my parking, and started the car. I had another meeting in the afternoon but I thought I'll just return to work later. Yes, I was going to drive from Ortigas to Sta. Rosa and back.

When I was about to speed off the parking area, I heard my phone ring and answered it right away. It was Teacher Frances. She said they were already in the nearby village and that they were going to our house next. I practically begged her to wait for me or to reschedule the visit some other day, but she said there's nothing she can do. She just called to assure me that it won't take long anyway and that it's ok if I wasn't there.

I totally broke down inside the car after that call! Of course it wasn't ok!! I felt pity and frustrated at myself. I cried like a baby for a good five minutes. It was the first time I really felt like I was not there for my son. Call me OA but for me it's a milestone in little dude's life. That event will never happen again. I was disappointed that I wasn't able to control the situation the way I usually do. I regretted working so far away from home.

It was my first why-do-i-have-to-be-a-working-mom moment. Sigh. Big sigh.

Now maybe this is a wake-up call for me to seriously consider working at home. Must. Think. Business. Now.

Sunday, March 31, 2013

New Work

Towards the end of 2012, I mentioned that I was going to try something new.  What is it, you ask? I moved to a new "second home".  It's still in the line of HR, in the beauty industry (more high end!), but this time not in manufacturing but rather, in distribution.

It was very difficult for me to leave because I love the people I used to work with.  They are a lot of fun and I have truly learned a lot from them.  That's where I first had a taste of this profession which I truly have the passion for.  It's with that company for women that I have experienced how to sincerely serve, to be fair, to manage events, to coach and train and motivate... there's just so much I learned! I must make a separate post on this one of these days.

If you're wondering why the move, well let's just say I let God fully take over my career and the opportunity's timing couldn't be better.  It came when I was at the peak of some doubts.  It took me a few sleepless nights to decide as I was already in my comfort zone (six years in my previous company wasn't a short period) and the work location does not agree with how I would've wanted it (it's in Manila, about 90km away from my little dude!) but I prayed hard for God to guide me and well, this is where He took me.

Although I'm still trying to get the hang of my new environment, there are a couple of things that I've been liking since I moved:

1. Access to events I've always wanted to go to but was constrained to do so because I was based far south and I did not have connections.
ManilaFAME!  I used to only read this from blogs!
Posh product launches


2. Convenience of city living made quick trips to the grocery, bookstores, salons, banks, etc. easy peasy.  Everything is about a 5-minute walking distance to my office.  There's a BPI just on the ground floor of our building, S&R is just a few blocks away, and High Street is within a stone's throw away.  Heck, if I didn't have anything to wear for an event a day before I needed it, I could just cross the street to Mango or Cotton on and I'm good!  Now, the tricky part is how to control shopping urges.  Hihi.

Got to experience the great S&R sale for the first time!

3. Also because of number 2, impromptu meet-ups with old friends is more likely.  Because almost all my friends live or work within the area, having lunch with them just needed a text and a quick check at my meeting calendar.

With college buddy, Omar, at Kitchen's Best
IE friends, Lei and Pao, at Slice

4. The pressure to be pretty.  For the past decade, I've been ignoring my appearance and my old kikay self took a backseat.  Having been exposed to the manufacturing environment where the no makeup look is a norm, I have forgotten how to blush my cheeks or put on a little color to my lips.  Add to that, my fashion sense needed attention since my wardrobe was predominantly jeans, polo shirts, or shirt jackets.  With my new job, however, everyone is really conscious of their get-up and coming into the office that seemed like a model's runway everyday, naturally, I have to cope!  I am proud to say that I've been buying a lot of dresses, blouses, and high heels lately.  I also have a one-on-one basic make-up application refresher course lined up. Hahaha!

Sample peg.  HMU c/o my lovely officemates.

5. The most important change that I am enjoying now is precious time with Jax.  Because we now carpool, we have at least two hours each day (one hour each going to and from work) to talk about our schedules, aligning our plans for the future, how to discipline our little dude, growing our finances, etc.  I love how we have created another communication venue for us that allows us to bond and (believe it or not) get to know each other even more.  During the first weeks, I felt like I was a new girlfriend again being picked up from the office by my boyfriend!

Like I said, this is all taking a bit of getting used to, but aside from the challenge of having to force hubster to pick me up by 6pm so we can come home to Marcus in time for dinner, I think I'm pretty much fine.

Saturday, June 30, 2012

I Wish I Was Better At These

Being a working mom and wife, there are a lot of things at home I wish I could do (or at least learn to) but do not have the luxury of time to.  I admit I have never been as domesticated as I wanted to.  I was starting to attempt to be one when Jax and I got married three years ago but I got pregnant, went full time with Marcus for a while, went back to my crazy work after my maternity leave, and well, forgot about it all together.  Hihi.

So, inspired by the training I had earlier today and the guilt I feel once in a while for being too lazy, I decided to revive my little goal to be the awesome (read: Martha Stewart meets the Stepford Wife) homemaker I've always wanted to be.  These are some of the stuff I want to get started with:

  1. Photobooks for my little dude's milestones
  2. Efficient and sustainable document system for our financial accountabilities
  3. Creative learning activities through play (which must be consistent with the curriculum from Marcus' toddler school)
  4. Compilation of healthy menu options (by subtly injecting veggies or fruits) for the picky eaters in the house (which includes me! haha!)
  5. Decorative frames for the few family photos we have
  6. An "idea book" for all my inspirations and dreams
Wish me luck!